“You’re not where you need to be.”
I have heard this phrase far too many times in the past two months. The words are being spoken in a work setting, so clearly theology has absolutely nothing to do with the issue at hand. So why the weird title to this post?
(Besides the obvious, which is that I’m weird in general…but I digress…)
I should also say that I feel like I probably should not even be talking about the situation publicly, not even in veiled terms. But I also suspect that by now, there is almost nothing I can do to affect the ultimate outcome here. Although I’ve far from given up (in fact, I have been working really hard on trying to give myself credit for how well I have been persevering in the situation), everything I see and read and hear tells me that it’s highly unlikely that I will be able to come back from this. Which is a shame, because in spite of the situation, I really, REALLY love the actual work. And it’s certainly no secret that I gladly drank that blue Kool-Aid long ago.
So about that phrase.
It’s being used in a diagnostic sense, a warning, so to speak, that I am not okay and that I need to fix what is broken, and quickly. On a surface level, I fundamentally disagree with this as well, but my opinion about where I “should” be in terms of mastery of my role does not match theirs…and mine is not the opinion that matters in this situation.
But here’s the thing. Setting aside the actual situation, I also reject the message in a much broader sense. I believe that everything happens for a reason. I believe that I am exactly where I need to be.
I prayed for years that I would be able to come home. This move happened…but it didn’t just “happen” – I pursued it repeatedly. I am certain with every fiber in my being that God brought me here.
I. am. where. I. need. to. be.
To say otherwise…well, that’s just bad theology.
Whether some people believe that I am “where I need to be” in a tangible or a professional sense, and no matter how uncertain and potentially frightening the immediate future may be, I am here. I’m not going anywhere.
I’m where I need to be. I’m in God’s hands. And after all is said and done, that’s the one thing that really matters.
2 thoughts on “Bad theology”
YES! Exactly. This is the deep underlying point that our whole ‘disorder diagnosis’ system seems to miss. Glad u have enough awareness or resilience not to be pulled down into the bullshit 🙂
Thank you! It certainly takes an immense amount of effort to not get sucked into that mindset